Monday, April 28, 2008
our first Valentine 1959
Our first valentine in our little trailer on the Marine base, well let me think, hummmmmm we did not have any money because we got paid on the 15th and 30th of the month and of course Valentines is on the 14th and in those days we did not have a checking account so we could not even write a rubber check. I woke up feeling really bad because we could not do anything and Delbert was not in the trailer and I did not know where he went, well he walked to town (about a five mile hike) and he got me a card and I still have it, but I did not get him anything because like I said we did not have any money nor could we go out any place special, but we had hamburger and we had a small grill so we grilled and we told each other that as long as we had each other we had Valentines everyday. Isn't young love great? and let me tell you old love is better.
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
our first home
ok, in the last blog I told you about our trailer and how small it was now I will tell you about the area we lived in, it was just above the front gate to Camp Pendleton, we had a small shopette and a laundry and playground for kids, they even had an outside movie screen with bleachers, we used to get our blankets and pillows and watched the movies on Friday nights, they were free, you see we did what ever we could for free, my first allotment check was $97.00 and Delbert was paid $47.00 twice a month our trailer rental was abut $45.00 but we had all of our utilities paid and it seemed we were rolling in the dough, hahaha little did I know. All the trailers were the same color and from the back you could not tell which one was yours, believe me it could be a bit embarrasing when you opened the wrong door, hahahha....The first time we went shopping at the commissary we had a basket overfilling and I was so worried we had spent so much but after adding it all up it came to under $50.00. Now mind you, I had not cooked before, I did bake before we were married but my mother did all the cooking and I did not get to help her beside, she was not the greatest cook either, but bake, oh boy could I bake. The first time I tried to make spaghetti I got all the fixings out and guess what, I did not have tomato paste or tomato sauce, but I did have catsup and isn't catsup made out of tomato's? yep you guessed it, I used the catsup in lieu of sauce or paste, uk uk uk...please don't try it I can tell you from experience that it is not tasty. My first experience with searations was during this time, we supplemented our meals with that and we had a lot of vienna sausages wrapped in bisquik and we had lots of hamburger stews, but we survived it. There was a vegetable truck that used to come around to our place and we could buy on credit but sometimes it was hard to pay and when we were desperate we would walk about 10 rows down to another section and hope the guy would not recognize us and pay cash for what ever we needed at at that time because we just did not have enough to pay the bill and get what we needed, it never occurred to us that if we paid the bill then we could re add what ever we needed to a new bill duh,,,,,In the next posting I will write about when we were starting out our family.
Friday, April 18, 2008
memories of 1959
ok, I am through with rewriting the diaries entries and now will try to write from my tired memory of 50 years. This is what I remember of what happened after the wedding.
We did not have a car so after the reception my brother took us to the greyhound bus terminal and we caught the bus to Oceanside, we spent our first night in a rundown hotel which looked quaint from the outside but oh my gosh after we checked in it was what did we do? I think it really was a hotel that catered to the cliental that rented rooms by the hour if you know what I mean, well the next morning Delbert left for the base and I checked out of the hotel and wandered around Oceanside waiting for Delbert to come back, I left our baggage at the USO, we thought we were going to get to go on a honeymoon, where? I don't know, we did not have much money but we figured we were going to get to spend some time together, but that was not to be. When Delbert finally got off the base that afternoon and caught up with me, he said a couple said we could stay with them until we found a place to rent and that it would be good for me because he could not get leave and on top of that he was going to have to go out in the field for 30 days, what a bummer. Before he left we went and put our name on base housing, they have an area for the enlisted personnel and they were 26 foot trailors and then there was a section with the longer trailors for families and then for big families they have double wide trailors, we thought it would be a long waiting list but we were lucky and got one right away, so while Delbert was gone I moved into the trailor and set up house, it was so small that the bathroom you could go potty, shower and shave at the same time. the bed was surrounded by the 3 walls, you had to climb into the bed to make the bed but it was our first home. I will write more later.
We did not have a car so after the reception my brother took us to the greyhound bus terminal and we caught the bus to Oceanside, we spent our first night in a rundown hotel which looked quaint from the outside but oh my gosh after we checked in it was what did we do? I think it really was a hotel that catered to the cliental that rented rooms by the hour if you know what I mean, well the next morning Delbert left for the base and I checked out of the hotel and wandered around Oceanside waiting for Delbert to come back, I left our baggage at the USO, we thought we were going to get to go on a honeymoon, where? I don't know, we did not have much money but we figured we were going to get to spend some time together, but that was not to be. When Delbert finally got off the base that afternoon and caught up with me, he said a couple said we could stay with them until we found a place to rent and that it would be good for me because he could not get leave and on top of that he was going to have to go out in the field for 30 days, what a bummer. Before he left we went and put our name on base housing, they have an area for the enlisted personnel and they were 26 foot trailors and then there was a section with the longer trailors for families and then for big families they have double wide trailors, we thought it would be a long waiting list but we were lucky and got one right away, so while Delbert was gone I moved into the trailor and set up house, it was so small that the bathroom you could go potty, shower and shave at the same time. the bed was surrounded by the 3 walls, you had to climb into the bed to make the bed but it was our first home. I will write more later.
Monday, April 14, 2008
wedding Day, January 25, 1959
Today is our official wedding day, Up until 2 days ago I had long hair but I was upset and so I decided I needed to change my hair so I went into my bedroom and I took each bunch of hair and twriled it around my finger 3 times and snip,,,,there it went, I kept my hair in pincurles for 2 days because I did not want anyone to know I had cut my hair, it sure was curly.....
Today we were married in the Catholic Church in the chapel on the Navy base in Coronado, CA. My Dad walked me down the aisle and he had his Navy uniform on with all his medals, all his hash stripes in gold going up his arm and Delbert had his Dress Blues on with his one stripe, I think he had a heart attack when he saw my Dad, but oh my gosh he (Delbert) is so hansome in his Dress Blues my heart just started beating..I had my veil over my face through the whole ceremony and when the Priest announced we were married Delbert turned to me took my arm and started down the aisle before lifting my veil and he kissed me at the entrance of the Chapel, he later told me he did not think it was proper to kiss at the Alter, I think he was just nervous and forgot hahaha..anyway, here is the rest of the diary for the 25th.
Dear Diary, Today has been a wonderful day, the wedding and reception turned out really great and there were a lot of pictures taken of us, I hope I can have some. I and my husband received a lot of gifts, there was a elect. frypan, a everwear pot and pan set, a lot of towles, a blanket, 2 bed spreads, 2 sets of silverware, lots of dishes, table settings, a nic nac. We left the reception about 5:30 and came to Oceanside on the greyhound bus for a night in hopes to pick up Delbert's leave papers so we can leave for a honeymoon-went to a show it was pretty good also went out and ate a chinese dinner - I love Delbert very much.
Today we were married in the Catholic Church in the chapel on the Navy base in Coronado, CA. My Dad walked me down the aisle and he had his Navy uniform on with all his medals, all his hash stripes in gold going up his arm and Delbert had his Dress Blues on with his one stripe, I think he had a heart attack when he saw my Dad, but oh my gosh he (Delbert) is so hansome in his Dress Blues my heart just started beating..I had my veil over my face through the whole ceremony and when the Priest announced we were married Delbert turned to me took my arm and started down the aisle before lifting my veil and he kissed me at the entrance of the Chapel, he later told me he did not think it was proper to kiss at the Alter, I think he was just nervous and forgot hahaha..anyway, here is the rest of the diary for the 25th.
Dear Diary, Today has been a wonderful day, the wedding and reception turned out really great and there were a lot of pictures taken of us, I hope I can have some. I and my husband received a lot of gifts, there was a elect. frypan, a everwear pot and pan set, a lot of towles, a blanket, 2 bed spreads, 2 sets of silverware, lots of dishes, table settings, a nic nac. We left the reception about 5:30 and came to Oceanside on the greyhound bus for a night in hopes to pick up Delbert's leave papers so we can leave for a honeymoon-went to a show it was pretty good also went out and ate a chinese dinner - I love Delbert very much.
Friday, April 11, 2008
saga continues 1959
Now you all know that I ran off and got married but now I will lead up to our 2nd wedding, the one that everyone recognizes as our official Anniversary date and we have never admitted to my parents or my family about our 1st wedding even when they tried to trick us by trying to tell us they knew about it.
January 18, 1959
Dear Diary This morning I woke up in my husband's arms- I am really happy now - Delbert's mother came down and woke us up after we fell asleep again-she told us that my father was looking for me last night and she said she would go and ask my parents if they would let us get married in the church and not for Del and I to say anything to them about us being married already-so I came home today, also today is the March of Dimes parade and Del took me and tonight my new cousin-in-law treated Del and I to the movies and after the movies they went and changed to go back I waited at the bus stop for the bus with my husband.
one of the things I did not mention in the diary is what my father said to my mother-in-law so I will tell you now, he did not know I had ran away and when he questioned my mother she kept telling him I was staying with a friend but I guess he knew I ran away and he went to Virginia and asked her if she knew where I was, she told him she would check with Grandma and ask around, that is when she came and found us and he had also told her if I did not come home soon he was going to call the police, so that is why she said that she would go and talk with them and tell them that I said I would not come home unless they agreed to let us get married and that I was over at Grandma's and that Delbert would be coming down to San Diego later that day from Camp Pendleton, so now you will see why in the next postings of my diary that things sorta went on as usual.
January 19th
Dear Diary today I went to the dentist for my teeth and when I got back Mom was talking to Virginia and I was to go and get my blood test today so I went and I got a ok test then I came home and went to work I worked from 3 to 6 I made $2.25 now when I get paid I will get $15.00-my husband came home from Camp, I am pretty sure we will be getting remarried Sunday, if nothing goes wrong-tomarrow I am going to the office to tell them that I am quiting, this page is sloppy but I am very tired-I love Delbert very much
January 20th
Dear Diary, Today I didn't go to school, Mom get me up at 8:30 and we got ready and went down to the church to see if the Priest would sign a note saying that I could get married in a military wedding, he said ok then Mom went and had her signature noterized so I could get a license then Del, Mom and I went to talk to the Priest over at Coronado, we are getting married Sunday at 1:00 pm Del brought us home - then Del and and I went down to get our license but had no money so while he went to hock his gun I drove the car around the block a couple of times, first time alone, I was a little nervous at first but I liked it.
Wed January 21 st
Dear Diary Today Delbert and I rode the school bus to school and I checked out, I got all passing grades except for history oh well - when we got home Mom said "well I was in TJ today and you can hear some of the silliest things" I think she knows that we are married and is trying to slip us up - I went to the hospital today but before I went, I stopped over at Del's, I have nothing wrong with me at all - I am all better...Jim, Jennie, Tom and Mike are coming down for the wedding - I am going shopping tomorrow, Del went to Camp tonight.
Thur, Jan 22nd
Dear Diary I got up about 9:45am Mom and I went downtown and I got a new coat, 2 bras, pants, shoes, nylons, 6 pairs, a veil for the wedding. I got home about 2:20, before I got home when we were downtown after shopping, my Mother embarressed me so badly, while waiting for the bus to go home my Mother starts in on me and telling me that the only reason I wanted to get married was so I could sleep with him, she said this in front of all the people waiting for the bus, I was crying so hard, I left her there and I took a later bus. I went to work - I got paid $18.00 but I keep only $10.00 I think I will put it in with the honeymoon so we can have more money, we are going to Oceanside Sunday night and Mon at 4:30 Del gets leave, tonight Mom has argue with me until she has me all confused and her too, I wish she would quit worring about me, She keeps asking me why we didn't wait 2 or 3 weeks, I just told her we didn't want to wait but she keeps on.
January 23 rd
Dear Diary all this morning I tried to clean out my room but it still looks like hell,I went down to make an appointment at the hairdresser for tomarrow for Mom, this afternoon I went and fixed up my room over at Grandma's and then came home ate and went to the show, after awhile Delbert came, I left before him and I came home, while writing to you Mom came in drunk and she told to me and told me how she went to TJ and knows we are married and started crying "God please help her"-I hope everthing will turn out fine Sunday. Tom came down tonite and Jim and Jenny, Mike and Jeannie will be here tomorrow about 1:30 in the afternoon.
January 24th
Dear Diary Today I cleaned up the house this morning while Mom went to the hairdresser, this afternnon I went downtown and picked up my coat and went stright to church it was 3:00 but confessions weren't until 3:30. Del came to church then we went home-Mom and Mrs Slater and Kathie were here and already fixed up the table and cake is beautiful 3 layers with pink bells and love birds on it - tonight at 11 Jeannie and Jenny, Jim and Mike blew in we sat around and talked but now I am awfully tired, Jeannie is sleeping with me-I love Delbert very much..
This is it for now, the next story is of the wedding day......
January 18, 1959
Dear Diary This morning I woke up in my husband's arms- I am really happy now - Delbert's mother came down and woke us up after we fell asleep again-she told us that my father was looking for me last night and she said she would go and ask my parents if they would let us get married in the church and not for Del and I to say anything to them about us being married already-so I came home today, also today is the March of Dimes parade and Del took me and tonight my new cousin-in-law treated Del and I to the movies and after the movies they went and changed to go back I waited at the bus stop for the bus with my husband.
one of the things I did not mention in the diary is what my father said to my mother-in-law so I will tell you now, he did not know I had ran away and when he questioned my mother she kept telling him I was staying with a friend but I guess he knew I ran away and he went to Virginia and asked her if she knew where I was, she told him she would check with Grandma and ask around, that is when she came and found us and he had also told her if I did not come home soon he was going to call the police, so that is why she said that she would go and talk with them and tell them that I said I would not come home unless they agreed to let us get married and that I was over at Grandma's and that Delbert would be coming down to San Diego later that day from Camp Pendleton, so now you will see why in the next postings of my diary that things sorta went on as usual.
January 19th
Dear Diary today I went to the dentist for my teeth and when I got back Mom was talking to Virginia and I was to go and get my blood test today so I went and I got a ok test then I came home and went to work I worked from 3 to 6 I made $2.25 now when I get paid I will get $15.00-my husband came home from Camp, I am pretty sure we will be getting remarried Sunday, if nothing goes wrong-tomarrow I am going to the office to tell them that I am quiting, this page is sloppy but I am very tired-I love Delbert very much
January 20th
Dear Diary, Today I didn't go to school, Mom get me up at 8:30 and we got ready and went down to the church to see if the Priest would sign a note saying that I could get married in a military wedding, he said ok then Mom went and had her signature noterized so I could get a license then Del, Mom and I went to talk to the Priest over at Coronado, we are getting married Sunday at 1:00 pm Del brought us home - then Del and and I went down to get our license but had no money so while he went to hock his gun I drove the car around the block a couple of times, first time alone, I was a little nervous at first but I liked it.
Wed January 21 st
Dear Diary Today Delbert and I rode the school bus to school and I checked out, I got all passing grades except for history oh well - when we got home Mom said "well I was in TJ today and you can hear some of the silliest things" I think she knows that we are married and is trying to slip us up - I went to the hospital today but before I went, I stopped over at Del's, I have nothing wrong with me at all - I am all better...Jim, Jennie, Tom and Mike are coming down for the wedding - I am going shopping tomorrow, Del went to Camp tonight.
Thur, Jan 22nd
Dear Diary I got up about 9:45am Mom and I went downtown and I got a new coat, 2 bras, pants, shoes, nylons, 6 pairs, a veil for the wedding. I got home about 2:20, before I got home when we were downtown after shopping, my Mother embarressed me so badly, while waiting for the bus to go home my Mother starts in on me and telling me that the only reason I wanted to get married was so I could sleep with him, she said this in front of all the people waiting for the bus, I was crying so hard, I left her there and I took a later bus. I went to work - I got paid $18.00 but I keep only $10.00 I think I will put it in with the honeymoon so we can have more money, we are going to Oceanside Sunday night and Mon at 4:30 Del gets leave, tonight Mom has argue with me until she has me all confused and her too, I wish she would quit worring about me, She keeps asking me why we didn't wait 2 or 3 weeks, I just told her we didn't want to wait but she keeps on.
January 23 rd
Dear Diary all this morning I tried to clean out my room but it still looks like hell,I went down to make an appointment at the hairdresser for tomarrow for Mom, this afternoon I went and fixed up my room over at Grandma's and then came home ate and went to the show, after awhile Delbert came, I left before him and I came home, while writing to you Mom came in drunk and she told to me and told me how she went to TJ and knows we are married and started crying "God please help her"-I hope everthing will turn out fine Sunday. Tom came down tonite and Jim and Jenny, Mike and Jeannie will be here tomorrow about 1:30 in the afternoon.
January 24th
Dear Diary Today I cleaned up the house this morning while Mom went to the hairdresser, this afternnon I went downtown and picked up my coat and went stright to church it was 3:00 but confessions weren't until 3:30. Del came to church then we went home-Mom and Mrs Slater and Kathie were here and already fixed up the table and cake is beautiful 3 layers with pink bells and love birds on it - tonight at 11 Jeannie and Jenny, Jim and Mike blew in we sat around and talked but now I am awfully tired, Jeannie is sleeping with me-I love Delbert very much..
This is it for now, the next story is of the wedding day......
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
Moving on to another day in January 1959
ok we are getting to some good parts of my diary, now remember earlier I spoke of my mother's drinking problem and my running away because of her drinking, I had been running away from home since I was about 13 when I could not take her drinking and what went with it, but my brother Tom always knew where to find me and would let me know when I could come home but this time, I had a girlfriend who was black and my parents did not know of her or where she lived, she had permission to go to my highschool which was out of her area.
January 12, 1959
Dear Diary today I went back to school, it was boring, I am begining to hate school but I have to go-Delbert told me that it would be better if we waited until he gets out of the Marines, I know he's right but we don't want to wait but we will-Del said he wants to go to Alaska to join the Airforce when he gets out but I don't see why we have to go to Alaska-Today Delbert started on his 110 mile hike I hope he makes the whole 110 miles God willing. I love Delbert very much that every night I get lonely because he isn't near me during the day my thoughts always seem to wander toward him and I miss him even when he is out of my sight for a few moments. I love him so it hurts not to be able to hold or love him.
January 13th
Dear Diary today I went to the doctors to find out my tests which were taken Dec 19th 1958, (I had been ill for awhile) the blood test shows that I had a low blood count and that I have a slight case of anemia so the doc said he wanted to find out immediatly why had anemia also the urine test showed I have a small infection so he loaded me down with 6 bottles of pills-soon,, vitimin,and some other kind and then I got some terrimicin and codine for my cough then some mineral oil for my bowels and some other kind I also have to take my temp 4 times daily and then next Tue I have to go back to find out what becomes of these new test the Dr thinks it might be TB , I wrote Del a 7 page letter, I really love Delbert and if I have tb I have to go to the hospital for a year, I hope nothing happens to Del , I don't think I could take it. I love Del (later no TB yeahhhhh)
January 15, 1959
Dear Diary well today is another day except that I have run away, I called Delbert but he wasn't back yet he will be back tomorrow at 1:00 am we left a message for him to call me as soon as he got back, I am staying at Vickie's until tomorrow until I decide what to do because I am staying there until Del comes or calls me, oh I am all confused, I don't know what to do - God Help, I love Delbert very much I wish we could get married very soon my Mom said she was getting a divorce but I told her I wasn't going to go with her. I love Delbert.
January 16th Friday
Dear Diary Well Diary today I stayed all day at Vickies except this morning we went over to my house to try to get my purse, we made it and tonight Del came over - we went to Jeannies and then we went to the Brown Bear to get some Chow Mein and then we got some cola and got a taxi and came back to Vickies. We might go to L.A. tomarrow or Sunday, I almost became Mrs A. L. Feliz tonight but we couldn't get a car so we didn't. I feel lousy I have a headache and a jaw ache my whole face feels horrible. Dear God Please help us - I love Del very much.
January 17, 1959
Dear Diary, Well today I and Delbert became Mr and Mrs A.L. Feliz in TJ, Delbert's Mom and Grandmom brought me a real pretty white dress with a lace over the satin and a white satin bow in the front also white shoes and a white purse, I also got a white slip and a white night gown and a duster - also some nylons, peds, and pants. We spent the night in a motel right off Division Street, I love my husband very much and I always will - the only thing I regret is that we ran off and got married without my parents, Del's mother signed for me and Del's grandpop signed for him, I love Del.
This is it for this installment, I will write more later.
January 12, 1959
Dear Diary today I went back to school, it was boring, I am begining to hate school but I have to go-Delbert told me that it would be better if we waited until he gets out of the Marines, I know he's right but we don't want to wait but we will-Del said he wants to go to Alaska to join the Airforce when he gets out but I don't see why we have to go to Alaska-Today Delbert started on his 110 mile hike I hope he makes the whole 110 miles God willing. I love Delbert very much that every night I get lonely because he isn't near me during the day my thoughts always seem to wander toward him and I miss him even when he is out of my sight for a few moments. I love him so it hurts not to be able to hold or love him.
January 13th
Dear Diary today I went to the doctors to find out my tests which were taken Dec 19th 1958, (I had been ill for awhile) the blood test shows that I had a low blood count and that I have a slight case of anemia so the doc said he wanted to find out immediatly why had anemia also the urine test showed I have a small infection so he loaded me down with 6 bottles of pills-soon,, vitimin,and some other kind and then I got some terrimicin and codine for my cough then some mineral oil for my bowels and some other kind I also have to take my temp 4 times daily and then next Tue I have to go back to find out what becomes of these new test the Dr thinks it might be TB , I wrote Del a 7 page letter, I really love Delbert and if I have tb I have to go to the hospital for a year, I hope nothing happens to Del , I don't think I could take it. I love Del (later no TB yeahhhhh)
January 15, 1959
Dear Diary well today is another day except that I have run away, I called Delbert but he wasn't back yet he will be back tomorrow at 1:00 am we left a message for him to call me as soon as he got back, I am staying at Vickie's until tomorrow until I decide what to do because I am staying there until Del comes or calls me, oh I am all confused, I don't know what to do - God Help, I love Delbert very much I wish we could get married very soon my Mom said she was getting a divorce but I told her I wasn't going to go with her. I love Delbert.
January 16th Friday
Dear Diary Well Diary today I stayed all day at Vickies except this morning we went over to my house to try to get my purse, we made it and tonight Del came over - we went to Jeannies and then we went to the Brown Bear to get some Chow Mein and then we got some cola and got a taxi and came back to Vickies. We might go to L.A. tomarrow or Sunday, I almost became Mrs A. L. Feliz tonight but we couldn't get a car so we didn't. I feel lousy I have a headache and a jaw ache my whole face feels horrible. Dear God Please help us - I love Del very much.
January 17, 1959
Dear Diary, Well today I and Delbert became Mr and Mrs A.L. Feliz in TJ, Delbert's Mom and Grandmom brought me a real pretty white dress with a lace over the satin and a white satin bow in the front also white shoes and a white purse, I also got a white slip and a white night gown and a duster - also some nylons, peds, and pants. We spent the night in a motel right off Division Street, I love my husband very much and I always will - the only thing I regret is that we ran off and got married without my parents, Del's mother signed for me and Del's grandpop signed for him, I love Del.
This is it for this installment, I will write more later.
Monday, April 7, 2008
More Diary entries Jan 1959
I have decided not to write everyday entries because they really are boring to me so I know it will be boring to you so I am going to pick and choose some of the ones that might bring some interest. This one is from Monday, January 5th, yesterday was our 6 month anniversary and Delbert was back at camp but today was the first day back to school after Christmas break so here goes....Well today I had to go back to school it was boring-but I really liked all the remarks about my engagement ring and after school I went to work (baby sitting) and I made $1.50 for 2 hours- tonight I came home and everyone (Dad) was in a grouch. I got a feeling I won't be seeing much of Delbert the way Grouch was talking but then it will probably be just talk-I wish Del & I could get married soon-if he goes overseas we are going to try to get secretly married but if he doesn't then if luck and God's will holds out I will get married when I graduate. Well all I did tonight is to watch TV I really liked the Desilue Westhinghouse Playhouse tonight. I already miss Delbert, I love him so that I miss him a lot.
January 8th Thursday
Today I got up at 6:30 for school and Mom was real grouchy. So I left as soon as I could-I didn't feel to very good today & 5th and 6th period I spent it in the nurse's office. I stayed after school to work on my picture in art class. When I got home I found out I had to go to work but it was too late. The man told me he would call when I had to come back so it wasn't my fault. I got a real nice note from Delbert today with the mail. I miss him very much I wish we could get married soon, for I am very much in love with him &I don't care how much my Mom belittles him & trys to tell me that Del has nothing but bad faults but I know different. She says I know nothing about money & that I need someone to take care of me instead of me taking care of Del & that he is not suited to me. I don't care.
January 11th Sunday
Dear Diary Mom got me up at 9:45 to watch Debbie, Boy am I bushed-I didn't get to sleep until 3 this morning. I got up read the paper, puttered around-fed Debbie put her to bed at 11:30 for her nap then I took a bath. Started to iron my green jumper & white blouse to wear to church, I didn't know whether Del was going or not but if he didnt call by 10:15 I was going without him but he called in time and we went to church-after church we each had 2 hamburgers & a coke then we went to his house, watched TV and worked crossword puzzels-at 5:30 went to his gr.mom house for dinner then came back, played chinese checkers & at 7:30 went to the laundry to pick up his jacket, Del lefted at 10:00 pm he is going on a 110 mile hike tomorrow. I hope nothing happens to him, I love Delbert.
That's it for this posting. Hope you enjoy reading it, I still love Delbert more than I ever thought I did in 1959, love can and will grow and it is amazing how we grew together through all of these years.
January 8th Thursday
Today I got up at 6:30 for school and Mom was real grouchy. So I left as soon as I could-I didn't feel to very good today & 5th and 6th period I spent it in the nurse's office. I stayed after school to work on my picture in art class. When I got home I found out I had to go to work but it was too late. The man told me he would call when I had to come back so it wasn't my fault. I got a real nice note from Delbert today with the mail. I miss him very much I wish we could get married soon, for I am very much in love with him &I don't care how much my Mom belittles him & trys to tell me that Del has nothing but bad faults but I know different. She says I know nothing about money & that I need someone to take care of me instead of me taking care of Del & that he is not suited to me. I don't care.
January 11th Sunday
Dear Diary Mom got me up at 9:45 to watch Debbie, Boy am I bushed-I didn't get to sleep until 3 this morning. I got up read the paper, puttered around-fed Debbie put her to bed at 11:30 for her nap then I took a bath. Started to iron my green jumper & white blouse to wear to church, I didn't know whether Del was going or not but if he didnt call by 10:15 I was going without him but he called in time and we went to church-after church we each had 2 hamburgers & a coke then we went to his house, watched TV and worked crossword puzzels-at 5:30 went to his gr.mom house for dinner then came back, played chinese checkers & at 7:30 went to the laundry to pick up his jacket, Del lefted at 10:00 pm he is going on a 110 mile hike tomorrow. I hope nothing happens to him, I love Delbert.
That's it for this posting. Hope you enjoy reading it, I still love Delbert more than I ever thought I did in 1959, love can and will grow and it is amazing how we grew together through all of these years.
Sunday, April 6, 2008
December 1958
Remember I mentioned that my ring set that I loved was sold to a young couple, well here it is Christmas eve and Delbert was over at my house and we were kidding around and of course marriage came up and I get smarty pants and I told him that I had been stringing him on and I really had no intentions of marrying him, he gave me that look that said hummmmm and then he said I guess you will not want I have for you now, I just knew in my heart and of course talk about back peddling I did that very well and he pulled out the black ring box and there were my rings the very rings that the Lady told me a couple of months back that were sold to a young couple, well I guess we were that young couple. The ring looked beautiful on my finger and I thought my diamond was the biggest shineynest (new word) and sparkled the best in the whole wide world. It was only a 1/4 caret but you would have thought it was 10 times that big....
When I went back to school in January I didn't mentioned it to anyone but I fluttered my hand all over and in class the ring went flying off my finger hahahahahah yep it was too big but I did not want to let go of it for one second to have it sized, I wrapped tape around it after that so it would not fly off my finger, but I did get the attention in class hahahahaha.....
Now we are in January of 1959 and I will take some writings from my little diary that I kept for a whole month and then there were some entries here and there that I will share later.
Dear Diary, will this year found Delbert & I dancing at the San Diego Hotel, I had 2 slingapor Slings and 3 tom collings plus some of Delberts. I had a wonderful time it started at 9 pm on Wed night and ended at 3 am Thurs Morning by me walking home by myself from Delbert's house because he fell asleep and this morning at 11 am Delbert calls and then the whole day was a messed up one. We had dinner over at Delbert's grandmother's house and then we went out with Ester and Gil. Gil broke up with Esther and I was knocked out when I tripped and fell when I started to chase her, we finally all come home, Gil gave her back the ring and Delbert went back to Camp. What a hoot.......I have to laugh at this entry... This was January 1st
On January 2nd I wrote
Dear Diary Delbert came over at 12:30 in the afternoon. I was going to fix him something to eat but Esther called & told him Gil wanted to see him & for him to be outside of the house, so he waited & all Gil wanted to do was to golf, so Delbert went & I didn't see him until 4:30-Ileft the house around 3 to go to the store with Roxanna, she bought a new dress & shoes and on the way home bumped into Delbert he was riding Tudy Boy's bike. Tonight we went to the movies and saw Houseboat and some of Party Girl then at 10:30 we went to Oceanside to pick up Delbert's gun then came home, stopped and ate got in at 2 am...
What I writer I was or I should say was not...hahahahhaha...I will write more later of this diary, maybe it will get interesting later on....
When I went back to school in January I didn't mentioned it to anyone but I fluttered my hand all over and in class the ring went flying off my finger hahahahahah yep it was too big but I did not want to let go of it for one second to have it sized, I wrapped tape around it after that so it would not fly off my finger, but I did get the attention in class hahahahaha.....
Now we are in January of 1959 and I will take some writings from my little diary that I kept for a whole month and then there were some entries here and there that I will share later.
Dear Diary, will this year found Delbert & I dancing at the San Diego Hotel, I had 2 slingapor Slings and 3 tom collings plus some of Delberts. I had a wonderful time it started at 9 pm on Wed night and ended at 3 am Thurs Morning by me walking home by myself from Delbert's house because he fell asleep and this morning at 11 am Delbert calls and then the whole day was a messed up one. We had dinner over at Delbert's grandmother's house and then we went out with Ester and Gil. Gil broke up with Esther and I was knocked out when I tripped and fell when I started to chase her, we finally all come home, Gil gave her back the ring and Delbert went back to Camp. What a hoot.......I have to laugh at this entry... This was January 1st
On January 2nd I wrote
Dear Diary Delbert came over at 12:30 in the afternoon. I was going to fix him something to eat but Esther called & told him Gil wanted to see him & for him to be outside of the house, so he waited & all Gil wanted to do was to golf, so Delbert went & I didn't see him until 4:30-Ileft the house around 3 to go to the store with Roxanna, she bought a new dress & shoes and on the way home bumped into Delbert he was riding Tudy Boy's bike. Tonight we went to the movies and saw Houseboat and some of Party Girl then at 10:30 we went to Oceanside to pick up Delbert's gun then came home, stopped and ate got in at 2 am...
What I writer I was or I should say was not...hahahahhaha...I will write more later of this diary, maybe it will get interesting later on....
Thursday, April 3, 2008
sometime in 1958 after July 4th
Like I said before, I will probably be jumping all around from time to time as I try to remember things. In this blog it is about starting back to school in my junior year and I will be writing some things about the way my parents first treated Delbert but I don't want anyone to get upset with them, they were just being parents and being afraid that my relationship with Delbert would really not last or work out and in that era race played a bit part. Also during this time my mother had a big problem with drinking and I ran away from home a lot and if it had not been for my brother Tom taking care of me, well that is another story and it really does not belong in this blog.
My little sister was about 3-4 years old when I started dating Delbert and everytime he would come over to the house Debbie would run up to him and throw herself in his arms and wrap herself all around him, we called her little monkey. Sometime she went on our dates with us when we went to the movies or to the zoo or out to Mission Beach where they had an amusement park. We were always going somewhere and doing something that did not cost a lot of money. One time Delbert came and picked me up on his Dad's motorcycle and we tore off, you can imagine the reaction to that date.
Well school started and all the "Chicana Chicks" did not like the idea that I was "stealing" their man and they called me out to fight, hahahah,,,,I told them I did not fight for any guy and if he wanted them he could have them, well you all know now how that turned out, I kept him hahaha, they decided to try and make a friend out of me but I knew they were just up to no good so I tried to stay clear of them for the most part. When I finally told Delbert what was going on, wow it mysteriously stop and I was never bothered by them anymore. On Saturday's at the Navy hospital in San Diego they use to have USO dances for the military guys and my mother made me go, my mother also used to invite the Sailors home for a nice home cooked dinner and served up her daughter for dessert talk about embaressing it was not a fun time but we made the best of it and after awhile she stopped making me go to the dances and trying to make me go out with other guys.
On the weekends I used to go over to Delbert's grandmother's house and she would try to teach me how to cook and sew but it never sunk in but I enjoyed going over there, they made me feel so welcomed, we called her Nana and his Grandpa was called Tata. They were the best people in the whole wide world and their door was always open to anyone.
In Sept of 1958 Delbert gave me my first corsage, I still have it saved it was on the 20th of Sept and it was white carnations. The next corsage was given to me on the 9th of November and it was a white gardina with orange carnations, I love gardinas. He was always bringing me little presents and he even wrote me a couple of poems, he knew how to make my heart go pitter patter..
I am rambling so in my next post I will go right into January 1959 and I will take some exerts from my diary leading up to the day we were married and then from there I will try to remember some things that happened when we started our family.
My little sister was about 3-4 years old when I started dating Delbert and everytime he would come over to the house Debbie would run up to him and throw herself in his arms and wrap herself all around him, we called her little monkey. Sometime she went on our dates with us when we went to the movies or to the zoo or out to Mission Beach where they had an amusement park. We were always going somewhere and doing something that did not cost a lot of money. One time Delbert came and picked me up on his Dad's motorcycle and we tore off, you can imagine the reaction to that date.
Well school started and all the "Chicana Chicks" did not like the idea that I was "stealing" their man and they called me out to fight, hahahah,,,,I told them I did not fight for any guy and if he wanted them he could have them, well you all know now how that turned out, I kept him hahaha, they decided to try and make a friend out of me but I knew they were just up to no good so I tried to stay clear of them for the most part. When I finally told Delbert what was going on, wow it mysteriously stop and I was never bothered by them anymore. On Saturday's at the Navy hospital in San Diego they use to have USO dances for the military guys and my mother made me go, my mother also used to invite the Sailors home for a nice home cooked dinner and served up her daughter for dessert talk about embaressing it was not a fun time but we made the best of it and after awhile she stopped making me go to the dances and trying to make me go out with other guys.
On the weekends I used to go over to Delbert's grandmother's house and she would try to teach me how to cook and sew but it never sunk in but I enjoyed going over there, they made me feel so welcomed, we called her Nana and his Grandpa was called Tata. They were the best people in the whole wide world and their door was always open to anyone.
In Sept of 1958 Delbert gave me my first corsage, I still have it saved it was on the 20th of Sept and it was white carnations. The next corsage was given to me on the 9th of November and it was a white gardina with orange carnations, I love gardinas. He was always bringing me little presents and he even wrote me a couple of poems, he knew how to make my heart go pitter patter..
I am rambling so in my next post I will go right into January 1959 and I will take some exerts from my diary leading up to the day we were married and then from there I will try to remember some things that happened when we started our family.
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
The next step
In my previous blog I told you how we started our lives together, in this blog I am going to take some parts of a diary that I kept for a couple of months while we were finding out that we were truly meant for each other. Can you belive it, we lived just around the block from each other growing up, I lived on First St. and Delbert lived on 2nd St.
actually I did not start the diary until January of 1959 so I will try to jar my memories of almost 50 years ago. It will not be in any type of order, just some of the things that we did together. Delbert was already in the Marine Corp and had been for over a year. That is why I really did not see him too much in the first part of 1958. Delbert was a ladies man and he had all the girls following after him and of course being male he had to brag to his fellow Marines that everyone in National City knew him all they had to do was ask any girl on the street and they could direct them to where he lived. Well let me tell you a story about that one. It was before the 4th of July and before we became a couple and I was very low on his radar, remember I was not his type of girl. There was a liquor store up at 8th and National and they had a section for magazines, books and comic books, instead of going to church like I was suppose to, I used to head over there and read comic books, well anyway, in comes about 3 Marine's and of course they flirt with me and out of the blue they ask me if I knew a Feliz who lived somewhere in National City, He was a buddy of theirs. And of course I said I sure do, I can even take you to his house....you can imagine what that did to Delbert's big head, yep it got bigger and it was "I told you so" hahahahahha......it was several months after that we met up in July.
When school started in Sept we were going "steady" and on Friday's he would get off work and drive about 75 miles home (he was stationed at Camp Pendleton CA) and he would make it just in time to pick me up, sometimes he did not have a vehicle and we would take buses to downtown San Diego and go to the movies. Anyway, I am getting ahead of myself a bit. We started talking the "M" word but I was a junior in high school and knew we would not be able to be married for at least another year, but that did not stop us from dreaming and planning. There was a little jewerly store that I used to stop at on my way home from school and the older couple in the store used to let me try on this beautiful solitare wedding set, I loved that ring, well I finally talked Delbert into going to the store and showed him the ring, he wanted to buy me a ring with lots of diamonds and he used to bring rings home from the PX to show me, but I had my heart set on this set. One day I went in the store to try on my ring and the lady said I am so sorry, but this young couple came in and they fell in love with the ring, I was so broken hearted over that. Well guess what I got for Christmas that year? MY RING,,,,,,,it was official we were engaged.
During our dating period in the summer it was not easy for Delbert, everytime he would come to the house to pick me up my father would yell out Pancho is here for you, Delbert never said anything, just smiled his little smile and he was always polite to my parents even though they were really rude to him. That went on for several dates and finally Delbert could not hold it in anymore and he asked me if I knew what Pancho meant in Spanish, of course I said no. He laughed and said your father is calling me Frank, yep, Pancho means Frank and my father's name is Frank, so of course when I went home I asked my father if he knew what he was calling Delbert when he called him Pancho and of course I had to tell him that he was calling him Frank, well let me tell you that was the last time my father called him Pancho.....
This is all for today, I will write more tomorrow now that my blogger is working again.
actually I did not start the diary until January of 1959 so I will try to jar my memories of almost 50 years ago. It will not be in any type of order, just some of the things that we did together. Delbert was already in the Marine Corp and had been for over a year. That is why I really did not see him too much in the first part of 1958. Delbert was a ladies man and he had all the girls following after him and of course being male he had to brag to his fellow Marines that everyone in National City knew him all they had to do was ask any girl on the street and they could direct them to where he lived. Well let me tell you a story about that one. It was before the 4th of July and before we became a couple and I was very low on his radar, remember I was not his type of girl. There was a liquor store up at 8th and National and they had a section for magazines, books and comic books, instead of going to church like I was suppose to, I used to head over there and read comic books, well anyway, in comes about 3 Marine's and of course they flirt with me and out of the blue they ask me if I knew a Feliz who lived somewhere in National City, He was a buddy of theirs. And of course I said I sure do, I can even take you to his house....you can imagine what that did to Delbert's big head, yep it got bigger and it was "I told you so" hahahahahha......it was several months after that we met up in July.
When school started in Sept we were going "steady" and on Friday's he would get off work and drive about 75 miles home (he was stationed at Camp Pendleton CA) and he would make it just in time to pick me up, sometimes he did not have a vehicle and we would take buses to downtown San Diego and go to the movies. Anyway, I am getting ahead of myself a bit. We started talking the "M" word but I was a junior in high school and knew we would not be able to be married for at least another year, but that did not stop us from dreaming and planning. There was a little jewerly store that I used to stop at on my way home from school and the older couple in the store used to let me try on this beautiful solitare wedding set, I loved that ring, well I finally talked Delbert into going to the store and showed him the ring, he wanted to buy me a ring with lots of diamonds and he used to bring rings home from the PX to show me, but I had my heart set on this set. One day I went in the store to try on my ring and the lady said I am so sorry, but this young couple came in and they fell in love with the ring, I was so broken hearted over that. Well guess what I got for Christmas that year? MY RING,,,,,,,it was official we were engaged.
During our dating period in the summer it was not easy for Delbert, everytime he would come to the house to pick me up my father would yell out Pancho is here for you, Delbert never said anything, just smiled his little smile and he was always polite to my parents even though they were really rude to him. That went on for several dates and finally Delbert could not hold it in anymore and he asked me if I knew what Pancho meant in Spanish, of course I said no. He laughed and said your father is calling me Frank, yep, Pancho means Frank and my father's name is Frank, so of course when I went home I asked my father if he knew what he was calling Delbert when he called him Pancho and of course I had to tell him that he was calling him Frank, well let me tell you that was the last time my father called him Pancho.....
This is all for today, I will write more tomorrow now that my blogger is working again.
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